Late Dad having his Walking Exercise

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Late dad, having his walking exercise, 1 week before his departure at IJN. 😓

A post shared by DTan (@philin135) on Aug 15, 2019 at 2:02am PDT

The above video was taken exactly 1 week before dad's 5th heart attack that took away his life. We were all so optimistic for his scheduled operation at IJN (institute Jantung Negara) and made him walk so that he can be independent again. but little did we know that he also died due to being heartbroken. Well, just 1 week before his trip from Penang to KL, he and mum had a big fight since he accused mum of having an affair and never believed that HIS SISTER was the culprit, having an affair with a married man. That someone who told him ought to be shot! Here is a sick man with 6 diseases, staying in a nursing home that we paid for monthly, and feeling abandoned and mistreated at times, believed it was mum who had the affair when she went to Glory Days to give him his fruits.

Well, since he was not permitted to go back home, I guess he in his senility, had the wrong impression and idea that his wife is cheating on him, which was totally untrue. Dad gave up the will to live since he apparently felt that he was a burden to us and his favorite daughter, did not come out to take care of him in the final leg of his scheduled surgery. Karen has many times told him, "Daddy, I will take care of you in your old age!" But the reality is that she flew to England to do her Ph.D. that lasted 5 years from 3 years. Never promise your parent if you could not fulfill his last wishes to see his favorite daughter by his side at his dying bed. Days before his death, dad was choosing the words of his obituary from a newspaper and wanted the same words to be printed.

Maid from Hell Finally Left

It was a huge relief that Yati finally left us for good and never to return again. She did a lot of mistakes, either on purpose or otherwise. For instance, she used the detergent to wipe the wall and caused wiping marks to be seen with the paints being wiped away. She also did something to my bathroom door to cause it to creak a loud sound. In the first few days, she detached the dustbin from the door and removed the cover. Well, this girl certainly has very itchy hands and fingers to bring down the property of someone's expensive 3,000 sq ft condo in Quayside, a premier place where many expats retire. Out of her anger, she also broke the glass door by hitting it and created the crack lines. It is very apparent, she wants to show who is the boss here in this unit. She also holds a sharp knife from the kitchen frequently!!!

Woohoo! Got $90 profit from the sale of my Condotti luggage bag

I am pleased that I managed to sell my free Condotti cabin luggage bag from Ambank for a premium at $90 instead of a mere $60, due to a last-minute message from Mudah.com.my. I sold it to Nurul, who is a student, just finished her STPM and waiting to be a prisons officer through training. We met up at Tesco food court at Tanjung Tokong which is less than 5 minutes drive from Quayside Condo. The Condotti luggage bag is an extra bag that I received it free from Ambank since I subscribed to monthly insurance payment of $300 per month per policy. I have 2 similar policies here. Tomorrow, the hired maid is leaving and it is a big relief since so many things were destroyed due to her itchy fingers. As she does not take care of people's property, we better let her go earlier than usual. Mum is 90% recovered.

Selling my Condotti Luggage Bag

I received a free navy blue Condotti luggage bag from Ambank for buying insurance the second time. It costs me $600 per month for 2 policies of $300 each. Now I have 4 insurance policies including Prudential, RHB's Tokio Marine, and 2 policies from Ambank. I had sold 3 luggage bags before. One was a gold Condotti, another a magenta Rainier, and the last one was a good branded silver Barry Smith as promoted by our 'Angkasawan' Dr. Sheikh Muszaphar Shukor, an orthopedic surgeon who graduated from India and did his masters in Malaysia. Hopefully, the buyer will meet me tomorrow should he be free and he will call me on where to meet. We had agreed to a minuscule price of $60 for the branded Condotti luggage bag.

Maid from hell?

I hired a maid on 15th June 2019 from Medan, Indonesia. On the first day, she asked if my mother has an extra green jade bangle for her!!! The reason I hired her was to take care of mum who had a fall and suffered compressed disc of the spine, etc. She also had diarrhea and it comes out almost non stop. Youngest sis, wanted to send mum to a nursing home since she sent granny and dad to nursing homes and refuse to let them come back. It was not karma as I intervened and said mum is to recuperate in Quayside Condo and immediately hired a maid from a 'joker factory' for her. The maid was Yati, I call her yeti, the beast. She had the audacity to break the glass door with so many lines of cracks to show her dissatisfaction when mum asked that youngest one help distribute my late father's estate to me and youngest sis, bypassing the second sis, since she did not contribute a cent for 5 years while doing her Ph.D. which took from 3 years to 5 years.

Yeti even used mum's handphone to download 25-30 apps of Dangdut music with baby laughing so loudly being played. I had the impression, yeti was using her own handphone since she secretly found her handphone in the drawer that I kept away from her. Well, her itchy hands just love to open and discover new things and perhaps look for loose cash here and there!

Mum's bone's density has more or less recovered at age 80 from osteoporosis to osteopenia. This means that the Forteo injection that costs RM 1,600 a month using dad's pension was helping her bone density. In the first 3 days, she even wanted to borrow RM 500 from mum, then me and then sis. It was all youngest sis' fault; spoiling her to bits by giving her 3 nightgowns, and more than 10 pieces of her branded t-shirts that she could no longer wear for the last 10 years. Yeti became bold and brazen, disobeyed orders and finished up my Ensure milk even though she has her own cheaper milk that we gave to her! I only drank 3 cups and the RM 84 Ensure milk tin was finished.

She also ate out 'bak kua' without permission. She will cut them into pieces and fry with rice for her dinner and other meals. There were 12 pieces of 'bak kua', where I had 4, mum 1, my spouse 1 and there rest, she just 'hau kor' away. Well for being disobedient, too brazen and bold, I decided to shorten her stay from 3 months to 2 months and that very day, she slammed the door showing her anger. The agent seems to inform her what's happening or rather the agent's other maid seems to inform yeti of her early dismissal. Well, good riddance to bad rubbish this 15th August 2019, her last day. Also mum's RM 10 is missing and we cannot let yeti stay at home in Island Park since mum's cash is kept all over the house including her costly jewelry.

Now Staying at Quayside

I am now staying at Quayside, mainly to look after mum and keep an eye on the maid. My Gosh, the maid is rather talkative, but I guess she is very happy staying here and working for us. She's like another family member since we give her catered food all to herself and she sleeps with mum in a master bedroom to change mum's pampas frequently at night. She even sings when she eats her food, so delighted to find so many dishes and spoilt to bits. She comes from East Java, a christian, takes pork and loves us. Well, she's pretty lucky and we are also blessed to have a maid instantly from Jeffrey Pan.

DAD, I love you.

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A post shared by DTan (@philin135) on Jun 5, 2019 at 6:48am PDT

Dad, I am truly sorry, if I hurt you in the past. I was the rebellious one in the family and I know it hurts a lot to see your offspring a bit wayward. I was sent to 'tangki' to rid of evil and at that time, we were not yet Christians. Forget about the past, now it is time to light candles for you as perpetual light to shine upon your soul and may you rest in peace and to hasten the path to heaven from purgatory. As this is your faith and believe, I shall honor it and try to light more candles on a more frequent basis like the youngest sister does weekly for you. I guess it is a form of prayer for you too. Though the teeth and the tongue may grind at each other, nevertheless you are my dad and you gave me life! I love you DAD, despite the occasional awkwardness. It is time to Rest in Peace and enjoy Life in Heaven with Jesus, Dear DAD. Where there is no pain, suffering, aging, diseases, sickness, being in adult pampas as you could no longer control your bladder, could no longer walk unaided and being left to stay in a nursing home.